Thursday, 30 May 2024

John Simons A Modernist Trailer


A Modernist – a film about the life and times of legendary clothing retailer John Simons.

 

Featuring exclusive interviews with musicians Kevin Rowland, Suggs and Paul Weller, broadcaster Robert Elms, art expert Ronnie Archer Morgan, advertising guru Sir John Hegarty and Sir Paul Smith as well as John Simons himself.

 

Plus those who have loved John and his work for over 60 years.

 

Directed by Lee Cogswell, Written by Jason Jules, Produced by Mark Baxter.

 

Exec. producers David Rosen, Emma ‘Queenie’ Smith’ Louise Baxter, Jean Baxter, Martin Freeman, Paul Weller and Mariana dos Santos.

 

Cover by Andrew Higginbotham. Illustration by Graham Marsh.

 

Music by Paul Weller and Lee Cogswell, Stone Foundation, The Nu’Rons, The Paradimes, Aunt Nelly, James Taylor, Johns Simons.

 

A Garmsville / Mono Media Films production 2018.

 

Released on 23rd April 2018.


Suedeheads and Skinheads at The Ivy Shop






REVIEW: JOHN SIMONS – A MODERNIST DOCUMENTARY

on June 13, 2018

https://www.modculture.co.uk/review-john-simons-a-modernist-documentary/

 

The man, the legend and the clothes. A new DVD looks at the life and work of John Simons, with the appropriate title of A Modernist. We obviously wanted to take a look.

 

I remember my first visit to the John Simons shop. I dragged my girlfriend (now wife) to a corner of Covent Garden and into one of the few shops that wasn’t packed with tourists or fashionistas.

 

The man himself was behind the counter and could’t have been more helpful. After a bit of browsing, I bagged a pair of Weejuns (and I still have that original bag) and left knowing it wouldn’t be my last visit, despite living at the other end of the country. It was a place like nowhere else then and now.

 

The shop has moved since, as it has done in the past, but the legend and the clothes remain. In fact, John Simons’ stock has never been higher.

 

It might well go up a few notches after the release of this particular labour of love, a documentary by Lee Cogswell, Mark Baxter and Jason Jules, looking at a man who has survived in the fickle world of fashion for around six decades by simply staying faithful to the timeless styles he loves.

 

Simons’ career is almost a timeline of modern culture, starting out at a time when youth culture was really just beginning after the malaise of the post-war years, working the windows of key retailers as a youth and was a result, getting hands on with the American labels that were coming to the fore and onto the shelves.

 

From dressing windows to selling clothes, it seemed the obvious step, with Simons talking about his first move to the markets with Clothesville, selling fashion to the Mods in ’63 (pea coats, slim trousers and cord jackets for example), moving onto the Ivy Shop in Richmond in 1964 and expanding the range to include raincoats, Harringtons (yes, JS did give the jacket its name) and button-downs, some made locally and sourced in the US.

 

The latter is probably what made the John Simons ‘brand’ and something that still makes him relevant to new generations today. John had the ‘eye’, heading to America to pick out what he saw as the items that would work for UK customers and in its earlier days, whether that was the mods, the skinheads, the suedeheads or any any other sharply dressed youth or gent.

 

He curates a range that has appealed to youth cults and over time, an older crowd who still want that considered and timeless ivy look or those who want a slight re-invention of the modernist look sported by the jazz icons of the 1950s.

 

Over time some authentic vintage has made it to the shelves, as well as own brand goods from the Apparel Company offshoot, designed to appeal to both younger generations and more established customers. At the end of the day, John Simons still sells a classic and standout look for all ages, whether that was from the Squire Shop in Soho in ’67, Covent Garden a couple of decades later or the Chiltern Street store of the modern era, which is now being run by John’s son Paul.

 

If you want some meat put on the bones of that story, you need this DVD.

 

Essentially this is a tribute to John Simons and the concept he has created in the words of both John Simons himself and some of his regular customers and for want of a better word, his ‘fans’.

 

Those people include the likes of Kevin Rowland and Paul Weller (both of whom have taken the ivy look to the masses with their respective bands), along with Suggs, Robert Elms, art expert Ronnie Archer Morgan, GQ’s Dylan Jones, advertising guru Sir John Hegarty and clothing maker and retailer Sir Paul Smith.

 

But not just the big names, the DVD also has the input of fans and customers, including some passionate words from John Wild (aka Bomber from the old Modculture forums). Oh, and John Simons himself along with son Paul, the current manager.

 

All have their own their own take on and memories of John Simons, whether that’s from the Ivy Shop, Soho shopping at Squire or stumbling into the store in Covent Garden in the ’80s, painting a picture of the shopping experience, the clothes they picked up and the youth cults that kept the tills busy.

 

But what really sells the DVD and in turn, John Simons itself, is the passion and the enthusiasm for John Simons throughout. This is a DVD that will have you re-evaluating your wardrobe, browsing the Simons website and checking the train times for a day trip down.

 

If you have any interest in mod, you’ll know that buzz of excitement you get when you find that item of clothing, whether it’s the perfect button down, the jacket, or the loafers. That must-have item regardless of how low your bank account is.

 

That’s the kind of ‘buzz’ you get from this DVD. The mix of words, archive imagery and modern-day ‘sweeps’ of the store racks really do showcase everything that is great about the retailer and his philosophy. If you’ve looked at John Simons or read about the clothes and haven’t quite ‘got’ what it’s all about, then this is the documentary for you.

 

A wonderful overview of a man who has been under the radar for too long. At least, for those who aren’t in the know. One comment in the DVD suggested there should be a statue of John for the work he’s done over the years. That might be a bit extreme, as both the shop and this DVD are tribute enough to the man and his passion.

 

Go buy it.


Wednesday, 29 May 2024

MEN OF THE CLOTH Trailer




Film Review: “Men of the Cloth”—Portrait of an Artist as an Old Man

 

December 7, 2015|

https://artsfuse.org/138262/fuse-film-review-men-of-the-cloth-portrait-of-a-master-craftsman-as-an-old-man/

 

Director Vicki Vasilopoulos has masterfully crafted a documentary about tailors, clothing, and the painstaking search for excellence.

 

Men of the Cloth, directed by Vicki Vasilopoulos. Screening at the Museum of Fine Arts Boston on December 10.

 

By Paul Dervis

 

To be honest, when I was assigned to review this documentary I was not looking forward to it. A film helmed by a rookie director about the trials and tribulations of aged tailors: it didn’t sound like something that would be particularly engaging.

 

Well, I was wrong.

 

Director Vicki Vasilopoulos has masterfully crafted this film, not unlike how her subjects have masterfully crafted their garments. And make no mistake about it, these tailors are artists with pins in their collective mouths.

 

Opening with images that capture the ancient beauty of a small town in Italy, the film immediately suggests that that kind of splendor will be created (and embodied) by her heroes. The film’s protagonists are three elderly Italian tailors: one hones his craft in Manhattan; another plies his trade in a Philadelphian suburb; the last is building an empire in his homeland. They are scattered across the globe, but the sublimity of their skills connect them.

 

Nino Corvato dropped out of school after the sixth grade to apprentice in the clothing industry. As a young man, his work took him to America and (of course) to Brooks Brothers. But employment by a menswear giant proved frustrating. When, even though his talent had been acknowledged, he was passed over for promotion because of his lack of formal education, he set out to make it on his own. Now, some 40 years later, he has a business in the priciest location in New York City, making handmade suits for the upper crust. He has even been teaching his trade at Parsons Fashion School in Greenwich Village. Approaching the twilight of his career, he now wants to establish his own program for aspiring young craftspeople.

 

It is an attempt to maintain a dying art.

 

Joe Centofanti, the Philadelphia tailor, has had a remarkably intriguing life. Still working when this film was shot (he was 90 years old), he had made uniforms for Italian fascists and spent years during the war in an internment camp in Africa, where he continued to cut cloth. Now, as he envisions the end nearing, he has taken in an apprentice of his own, in hopes of continuing an invaluable legacy. That young man, Joe Genuardi, a Carnegie Mellon graduate, dreams that one day he will be able to combine the intricacies of handmade work with the contemporary production of the ‘factory’ industry.

 

That idea leads the filmmaker to Checchino Fonticoli, the Italian master who stayed home…or did he? As a young man he was one of a hundred tailors in his town—now he stands alone. Yet he has  slowly grown his business into a major business operation, with countless workers creating his men’s fashions. And, though he is still in his native land, he travels the world, creating clothing for kings and presidents. Along the way, he has won Italy’s most prestigious honor for tradesmen.

 

Vasilopoulos clearly has an enormous love for these men and what they represent. And well she would. A former fashion editor herself, she has spent nearly a dozen years making Men of the Cloth, admiring her subjects and their miraculous skills.

 

The appeal of this film is its ability to take a subject that could be potentially boring, making clothes, and turning it into a deeply moving narrative, a story that is filled with a deep lust for life. At no time does Men of the Cloth drag. Even when the action becomes somewhat repetitive, Vasilopoulos finds something unique and compelling for us to see.

 

Equally clear is these old men are not merely superb craftsmen, but artists who obsessively pay attention to every detail; it is their striving for perfection that transforms them into archetypes. Their painstaking search for excellence separates their world of fashion from that of our ‘off the rack’ realities.

 

Enjoy the inspiring lives of these men…they will not be coming around again.

 

Paul Dervis has been teaching drama in Canada at Algonquin College as well as the theatre conservatory Ottawa School of Speech & Drama for the past 15 years. Previously he ran theatre companies in Boston, New York, and Montreal. He has directed over 150 stage productions, receiving two dozen awards for his work. Paul has also directed six films, the most recent being 2011’s The Righteous Tithe.


Tuesday, 28 May 2024

King to plant sapling from Sycamore Gap tree in Windsor Great Park




 

King to plant sapling from Sycamore Gap tree in Windsor Great Park

 

National Trust gives first successful seedling from illegally felled Northumberland tree to King Charles

 


Caroline Davies

Mon 27 May 2024 08.18 EDT

https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/article/2024/may/27/king-charles-to-plant-sapling-from-sycamore-gap-tree-in-windsor-great-park

 

The first successful seedling nurtured from seeds collected from the 200-year-old Sycamore Gap tree, which was illegally felled, will be planted in Windsor Great Park after being given to King Charles by the National Trust.

 

The king intends that the seedling, presented as a gift on the last bank holiday Monday in May, known as Celebration Day, when we remember those no longer with us, will be planted when it has matured into a sapling for visitors to the park to enjoy it as a symbol that hope and beauty can come from loss, the charity said.

 

The 15-metre tree, a much-loved feature of Hadrian’s Wall in Northumberland, was cut down in September.

 

The king, who is patron of the conservation charity, is the first recipient of a seedling, one of 100 seeds and 40 cuttings successfully propagated from the tree by experts at the National Trust’s Plant Conservation Centre. The National Trust will announce planting plans for the other seedlings and cuttings late this year.

 

The first Sycamore Gap seedling successfully propagated from the tree. Photograph: Emma McNamara

 

The famous sycamore was named England’s tree of the year in 2016. It featured in the 1991 film Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves and was a popular site for stargazing and marriage proposals.

 

The hope is that, once the sapling has established and grown, in time the wind will help ensure its seeds are even more widely distributed – rooted in the past, flourishing in the present and carried into the future, the charity said.

 

Hilary McGrady, the director general of the National Trust, said: “It is wonderful news that His Majesty will one day have the very first sapling grown from this iconic tree. The new tree will be seen by many thousands each year and will be the first of many Sycamore Gap saplings planted at different places, in Northumberland and beyond.

 

“The swell of emotion we saw after the sycamore was felled goes to show how personally connected we all are to our natural heritage. These new green shoots are keeping the story of the Sycamore Gap alive, and are serving as a reminder of the simple and much-needed hope, joy and respite that nature can bring.”

 

The public received its first glimpse of a Sycamore Gap seedling in the National Trust show garden at the Chelsea flower show last week, where it was placed in a garden inspired by the charity’s founder, Octavia Hill, with the aim of reflecting how everyone needs access to nature, beauty and gardens.

 

Two people have appeared in court charged with criminal damage for allegedly cutting down the tree.

Monday, 27 May 2024

Boarding school boys rule Britain, at what cost? | The New Statesman podcast

Boarding schools have a devastating impact on society, says Charles Spencer / SAD LITTLE MEN by RICHARD BEARD

 


Boarding schools have a devastating impact on society, says Charles Spencer

 

Brother of Diana reveals he was sexually abused as a child at Maidwell Hall and that a nanny would beat him and his sister

 

Jamie Grierson

Sun 17 Mar 2024 17.26 GMT

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2024/mar/17/boarding-schools-impact-charles-spencer

 

Charles Spencer, the younger brother of Diana, Princess of Wales, has said the brutalising effect of boarding schools on people who have come to power has been devastating for society.

 

Spencer was speaking on the BBC’s Sunday with Laura Kuenssberg programme after the release of his memoir, A Very Private School, in which he revealed he was sexually assaulted as a child at the boarding school Maidwell Hall in Northamptonshire.

 

In an extract, the 59-year-old detailed the sexual assaults and beatings he experienced at Maidwell, saying they had left him with lifelong “demons”.

 

He said he was abused by an assistant matron at the school when he was 11, leaving him with such trauma that he self-harmed over the notion that she might leave the school.

 

Elsewhere in the book, Spencer suggested the impact of public school culture had made a difference to some of the people who lead the country.

 

When asked about this, he told Kuenssberg: “When it goes really wrong, as it did in Maidwell in the 1970s, you’re going to come out very damaged, and I know I did. And I actually say in the book, you know, to survive that, a small but important part of me had to die. And I think that’s true, you know, there was a softness that had to be trampled on, because otherwise it would be too painful.

 

“So if you extrapolate that and think of the damage it’s done to other people who have ended up in powerful positions – and I’m talking over the centuries, not just contemporaries – they have to have had their view of what’s acceptable behaviour, what other people mean in terms of empathy, they have to have been brutalised.

 

“And I cannot think that all of the effects of these schools can have been good for society, or for the empire, or whatever we were in control of at the time. I think it’s been devastating in some ways.”

 

In the wide-ranging interview, he revealed that his and Diana’s childhood nanny would “crack our heads together” if they misbehaved, with a “cracking crunch” that “really hurt”. He said it emphasised the “disconnect of parents”, but he did not criticise his mother and father, saying it had been “normal” to “leave it to the nanny to deal with”.

 

He claimed that another nanny punished his two older sisters by “ladling laxatives down them”.

 

In his memoir, Spencer described reliving his experiences at boarding school as “an absolutely hellish experience”, writing: “I’ve frequently witnessed deep pain, still flickering in the eyes of my Maidwell contemporaries.”

 

On the matron, Spencer wrote: “There seemed to be an unofficial hierarchy among her prey … She chose one boy each term to share her bed and would use him for intercourse.

 

“Her control over mesmerised boys was total, for we were starved of feminine warmth and desperate for attention and affection.”

 

As a result of the experience, Spencer said, he lost his virginity to an Italian sex worker at the age of 12.

 

“There was no joy in the act, no sense of arrival, no coming of age,” he wrote. “I believe now that I was simply completing the process set in motion by the assistant matron’s perverted attention.”

 

He also said he was beaten with the spikes of a cricket boot by the school’s Latin master.

 

In a statement, Maidwell Hall said it was “sorry” about the experiences Spencer and some others had had at the school.

 

“It is difficult to read about practices which were, sadly, sometimes believed to be normal and acceptable at that time,” it said. “Within education today, almost every facet of school life has evolved significantly since the 1970s. At the heart of the changes is the safeguarding of children and promotion of their welfare.”


SEE ALSO: 

https://tweedlandthegentlemansclub.blogspot.com/2020/12/the-guinea-pig-1948-clip-on-bfi-blu-ray.html

 

https://tweedlandthegentlemansclub.blogspot.com/2019/08/a-clique-of-pseudo-adults-britains.html

 

https://tweedlandthegentlemansclub.blogspot.com/2014/09/the-riot-club-official-trailer.html


In 1975, as a child, Richard Beard was sent away from his home to sleep in a dormitory. So were David Cameron and Boris Johnson.

 

In those days a private boys' boarding school education was largely the same experience as it had been for generations: a training for the challenges of Empire. He didn't enjoy it. But the first and most important lesson was to not let that show.

 

Being separated from the people who love you is traumatic. How did that feel at the time, and what sort of adult does it mould?

 

This is a story about England, and a portrait of a type of boy, trained to lead, who becomes a certain type of man. As clearly as an X-ray, it reveals the make-up of those who seek power - what makes them tick, and why.

Sad Little Men addresses debates about privilege head-on; clearly and unforgettably, it shows the problem with putting a succession of men from boarding schools into positions of influence, including 10 Downing Street. Is this who we want in charge, especially at a time of crisis?

 

It is a passionate, tender reckoning - with one individual's past, but also with a national bad habit.

 

© Richard Beard 2021 (P) Penguin Audio 2021

 

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Richard Beard Q&A: ‘This is a very private-school idea – you just have to live with social injustice’

Author Richard Beard.

Author Richard Beard. Photograph: Urszula Soltys

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2021/aug/08/public-schoolboys-boris-johnson-sad-little-boys-richard-beard?CMP=fb_gu&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR0u-1O8sYoxjXRP0qkEL9ImB_5ecE0AcmsJKwqemcxWrUANP_bHQOPYnmM#Echobox=1628416840

 

How has your schooling affected you?

My relationship with my own emotions was distorted from the moment it was taken as gospel truth that it was good for me to be separated from my family aged eight. You’re doing something that feels terrible, but everyone tells you it’s good. That leads to further dislocations, which allow individuals to become fractured, divided, and very good at leading a double life.

 

Boris Johnson and David Cameron attended similar schools at a similar time. How do you think it shaped them?

In so many ways. Almost every day I read the paper and think, yes, I recognise that. Recently, it’s the idea that you just have to live with stuff – with Covid, for example. Just as at school you just had to live with your parents leaving you behind, with the daily authoritarianism, with not going home for weeks at a time. This is a very private-school idea – you just have to live with social injustice.

 

There’s also the extensive training in dissembling and putting up a front. I don’t get any sense of authenticity from them, or genuine empathy. At some point, you start feeling sorry for them.

 

Do you feel sorry for them?

Well I hope it’s there in the title of the book – it’s not just the pejorative name-calling of sad little men. I know that they had to create their own coping mechanisms. And those coping mechanisms are what you see in these behaviours, which do seem to me to start out from the sadness of little boys out of their depth, but who learned early in their lives how to hide that.

 

Johnson has been described as confusing and contradictory, but you say that’s precisely what boarding school produces… shapeshifters with fluid identities.

That connection is made quite clearly by John le Carré – he often links this type of education to the vocation of being a spy. I do think it’s different now, because we’ve grown up through a period of peace and prosperity, and we haven’t had that tempering that previous generations have had, when confronted by major world events – being goaded into seriousness, but also into empathy for other people in the country.

 

You’re pretty unambiguous about the hellishness of boarding school. Why do parents send their children to these places?

It’s not hellish on a daily basis. On the surface, it seems quite the opposite, especially to the parents. When you see the tennis courts and the swimming pools it looks fantastic. The problems are underneath the surface.

 

But a lot of these parents have gone through it themselves, so they are well aware of the damage it creates…

If you’re now in a position to send your children to private school, it means you either managed your inheritance wisely or you’re a QC or an investment banker or the prime minister and you can say: “What a great success!” It’s very hard to fight back against that surface, against that lie.

 

Did you ever consider sending your kids to private schools?

No. I wanted the kids to be coming home at night, and I wanted them to be in co-education.

 

Did that extend to sending them to state schools?

I lived abroad a lot, where they were in lycées, French-speaking schools. In this country, to keep the language going, that meant finding what’s now a free school, so a state school but not a classic comprehensive.

 

Do you feel that by writing this book, and facing up to your schooling, you’ve exorcised it in some way?

I think facing and unpacking a past life is the antidote to some of its effects. But I was deeply formed by these experiences. The lies create habits for life which are, in many cases, detrimental to living well, and that takes a long time to undo.

Interview by Killian Fox

 

‘Everyone who was not us, a boy at a private boarding school from the late 70s to the early 80s, was beneath us’: Boris Johnson, centre front, at Eton. Photograph: Richard Shymansky from News Syndication/Gillman & Soame UK Ltd / News Licensing

 

Why public schoolboys like me and Boris Johnson aren’t fit to run our country

Boris Johnson, centre front, at Eton.

 

Our elite schools foster emotional austerity and fierce clique loyalty. Here a privately educated writer of the prime minister’s generation reveals the lasting damage public schools do

 

Scroll down for a Q&A with Richard Beard

Richard Beard

Sun 8 Aug 2021 07.00 BST

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2021/aug/08/public-schoolboys-boris-johnson-sad-little-boys-richard-beard?CMP=fb_gu&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook&fbclid=IwAR0u-1O8sYoxjXRP0qkEL9ImB_5ecE0AcmsJKwqemcxWrUANP_bHQOPYnmM#Echobox=1628416840

 

I had a feeling I couldn’t immediately place. I wanted to go out but wasn’t allowed. Shelves were emptying at the nearest supermarket and instead of fresh fruit and vegetables I was eating British comfort food – sausages and mash, pie and beans. My freedom to make decisions like an adult was limited. I wondered when I’d see my mum again.

 

March 2020, first week of the first lockdown: I was 53 years old and felt like I was back at boarding school. Which wouldn’t have mattered, but for the fact that at a time of national crisis my generation of boarding-school boys found themselves in charge.

 

My first night at Pinewood school was two days after my eighth birthday in January 1975. A term earlier David Cameron had left his family home for Heatherdown preparatory school in Berkshire, while also in 1975, at the age of 11, Alexander Johnson was sent to board at Ashdown House in East Sussex. This means I know how two of the past three British prime ministers were treated as children and the kind of men their schools wanted to make of them. I know neither of these men personally but I do know that they spent the formative years of their childhood in boarding schools being looked after by adults who didn’t love them, because I did too. And if the character of our leaders matters then I’m in possession of important information.

 

At the age of 13, after prep school, Cameron and Johnson progressed to Eton. I went on to Radley College near Oxford. The exact school picked out by the parents didn’t really matter, because the experience was designed to produce a shared mindset. They were paying for a similar upbringing with a similar intended result: to establish our credentials for the top jobs in the country. We were being trained for leadership, or if not to lead then to earn. The most convincing reason to go to a private school remains to have gone to a private school, with the prizes that are statistically likely to follow.

 

It is noticeable, and often noticed, that something immature and boyish survives in men like Cameron and Johnson as adults. They can never quite carry off the role of grownup, or shake a suspicion that they remain fans of escapades without consequences. They look confident of not being caught, or not being punished if they are. Cameron has his boyishly unlined face and Johnson his urchin’s unbrushed hair, and his arch schoolboy’s vocabulary.

 

But what kind of boyhood was it, in our paid-for rooms in those repurposed mansions that housed our schools? What of the distant past still works in us as adults and can we pass on the harm to others? Are we the right people to steer the country, either clear of trouble or in the direction of sunlit uplands? The answer to these questions depends on lessons learned at an impressionable age. Unless, of course, we learned nothing. And no one pays hundreds of pounds a term, even in the late 70s, to learn nothing.

 

I remember the feeling of desolate homesickness: abruptly, several times a year, our attachments to home and family were broken

 

One of the first things we learned – or felt – at prep school was a deep, emotional austerity, starting from the moment the parents drove away. That first night, and on other nights to come, the little men in ties and jackets reverted to the little children they really were – in name-taped pyjamas with a single soft toy (also name-taped), blubbing themselves to sleep and wetting their beds.

 

I remember the feeling of desolate homesickness: abruptly, several times a year, our attachments to home and family were broken. We lost everything – parents, pets, toys, younger siblings – and we could cry if we liked but no one would help us. So that later in life, when we saw other people cry, we felt no great need to go to their aid. The sad and the weak were wrong to show their distress, and we learned to despise the children who blubbed for their mummies. The cure was to stop crying and forget that life beyond the dormitories and classrooms existed. Concentrate instead on the games pitches and the dining hall and the headmaster’s study. By force of will we made ourselves complicit in a collective narrowing of vision.

 

In Richard Denton’s BBC documentary Public School, filmed at Radley College in 1979, the Radley headmaster Dennis Silk tells a daunted audience of new boys that they’re about to pick up “the right habits for life”. Among these habits was cultivation of the stiff upper lip. We could be ourselves – homesick, vulnerable, lovelorn and frightened – or, with practice at putting up a front, we could pretend to embody the idealised national character. We could perform being loyal and robust and self-reliant. Wearing a commendably brave face we could distance our feelings, growing the “hardness of heart of the educated”, as identified by Mahatma Gandhi from his dealings with the English ruling class.

 

This wasn’t healthy. In her 2015 book, Boarding School Syndrome, psychoanalyst Joy Schaverien describes a condition now sufficiently recognised to merit therapy groups and an emergent academic literature. The symptoms are wide-ranging but include, ingrained from an early age, emotional detachment and dissociation, cynicism, exceptionalism, defensive arrogance, offensive arrogance, cliquism, compartmentalisation, guilt, grief, denial, strategic emotional misdirection and stiff-lipped stoicism. Fine fine fine. We’re all doing fine.

 

We adapted to survive. We postured and lied, whatever it took. Abandoned, alone, England’s future leaders needed to fit in whatever the cost, and we were not needy, no sir. We could live without, and we convinced ourselves early that we had no great need of love, in either direction. Acting like a grownup meant needing no one.

 

Discouraged from crying out for help, frightened of complaining or sneaking, we developed a gangster loyalty to self-contained cliques, scared to death of being cast out as we had been from home. Of being cast out again. In the absence of family we kept in with our chums, but also ingratiated ourselves with the teachers: God knows what might come next after abandonment if we kicked up a fuss.

 

From the teachers we learned about mockery and sarcasm as techniques for social control, with our boy hierarchies regulated by banter, ranging from a sharp remark to a knuckle in the crown of the head. Attack was the best form of defence, and ridicule was honed as a deeply conservative force, controlling by means of fear, either of being the joke or of not getting the joke. There was plenty of fear to go round. The author Paul Watkins, in his memoir Stand Before Your God, remembers at Eton the huge amount of energy, in the time of Cameron and Johnson, that went into “teasing and ignoring people”. “I felt a harshness that I’d never felt before.”

 

George Orwell, during his time at prep school, remembers being ridiculed out of an interest in butterflies. The banter that day must have been immense. Nothing was sacred, and once we found out what another boy took most seriously we were ready to strike, when necessary, at its core. Our most effective defence was therefore to act as if we took nothing very seriously at all.

 

We learned to stay detached, some would say cold – “You had to have a coldness in yourself,” writes Watkins. “Of all the rules I learned and later threw away, this one I kept. If you did not know it, you could get hurt very badly at a place like Eton.”

 

Later in life, these unwritten school rules could infect every type of relationship. Prematurely detached from our parents, we had a preference for abandoning others before getting abandoned ourselves. Jump ship. Also, to be on the safe side, keep an emotional reserve.

 

Prof Diana Leonard, who established the Centre for Research on Education and Gender at the University of London, published research in 2009 showing that boys from single-sex schools were more likely to be divorced or separated from their partner by their early 40s. And mental health professionals, like Schaverien, are convincing in their explanation that those years of disconnection mean we expect too much, our fantasies rarely surviving contact with reality. Making up for lost time, for example, we want sex but come to resent women for our weakness for sex – as adults, erotic dependence becomes a new form of vulnerability to be doubted and denied. Why couldn’t women be more like our boyhood Athena posters?

 

At school we tried not to feel foolish, angry, loving, stupid, sad, dependent, excited or demanding. We were made wary of feeling, full stop. By comparison, children not blessed with a private education must be fizzing with uncontrolled emotions and therefore insufferably weak. How did the schools teach us this sense of superiority? The language was always chipping away – in the documentary Public School the boys casually refer to “the lower orders”, as if to a species difference, reptiles considering insects. In our isolation we learned that we were special. Everyone else was less special and often stupid – school was where we went, aged eight, to learn to despise other people.

 

Cameron, Johnson and I absorbed attitudes once familiar to Orwell, who was confronted with some realities about his Eton education when documenting the living conditions of working-class households in Lancashire and Yorkshire. “Common people seemed almost sub-human,” Orwell writes in The Road to Wigan Pier. “They had coarse faces, hideous accents, and gross manners… and if they got half the chance they would insult you in brutal ways.” Alien and dangerous, the working class evoked “an attitude of sniggering superiority punctuated by bursts of vicious hatred”.

 

Anyone underestimating the durability of this divide should consider the evidence of the Radley College swimming pool, circa 1980. A story used to circulate that the pool was a yard shorter than a standard pool, so that no local swimming club would want to use it for practice or competitive events. Christopher Hibbert’s history of Radley, No Ordinary Place, corrects this myth: the pool was deliberately designed a yard longer. The same reasoning applied. The locals shouldn’t be encouraged. Typically, in a summer term ending in early July, we didn’t swim in it much anyway.

 

In the early 80s, Radley’s non-teaching staff were known as College Servants. We had cleaners, chefs, groundsmen, bit-part players and comic mechanicals. They represented the proles, the plebs, the oiks, the yokels, the townies and the crusties (a term Johnson continued to use 40 years later). Our special language had its range of words to set these unfamiliar animals apart, meaning people not like us, and if you didn’t know the language you were probably one of them. As Orwell doubles-down in Nineteen Eighty-Four: “The proles are not human beings.”

 

In his autobiography, For the Record, David Cameron admits that about Brexit he “did not fully anticipate the strength of feeling that would be unleashed both during the referendum and afterwards”. Of course he didn’t. Strong feelings were involved, and also the common people. He was floundering in a pair of blind spots, to emotion and the British public. He gorged on a double helping of ignorance undisturbed since his schooldays.

 

Looking now at old school photos, I find I can count the darker faces on the fingers of one hand. At Pinewood we had two brothers recently arrived from Nigeria, and the son of an Indian doctor who lived not far from my parents in Swindon. The only other dark faces we saw were in our Saturday-night films, in Zulu and Young Winston, where savage natives were subdued by the civilising force of white British warriors. Did that turn us into racists? Yes, I think it did.

 

In the holidays I’d go to the post office on Victoria Road, to collect Mum’s child benefit, and when the British Asian post office worker stamped the book I was immensely pleased with myself for acting as if he were just like anyone else. At Radley one boy in our year was possibly mixed race – we didn’t really know but mocked him for it anyway – and the two of us played in the same rugby team. In my end-of-year sports reports I make feeble gags about Brownian motion and his “blacking” of other players. I don’t even know what that means, beyond the racial slur. The supervising editor of the school magazine, a teacher, saw nothing in need of editorial attention. And why would he? The racism was institutional – with the evidence currently available online in the school’s digitised archive.

 

Girls, swots, oiks, wogs and queers were synonymous with weakness, to be joshed without mercy by the strong

I find the son of the Indian doctor on LinkedIn – Ravi is successful in business, though he asks me not to use his real name. Whatever I think about private schools and racism, what does he think? Initially he’s cautious. He writes back that “frankly there are some very bad memories of that time that are very painful”.

 

As first-generation immigrants, he tells me later by phone, his Indian parents wanted to give him a good education. Overall, Pinewood was “pretty decent”; his public school less so. He asks me not to name it.

 

“I was called a wog and a Paki. There was the National Front.”

 

In his school as at mine, public speaking was encouraged – good for the confidence – and one boy was “passionate about the National Front”. Ravi regrets sitting in the audience and at the end of a hate speech clapping politely, demonstrating the good manners he’d been educated to value. There was also racism from the teachers, in remarks that casually encompassed Ravi’s father and family.

 

Our schoolboy vocabulary, with its stock of disparaging words, expanded to include everyone who deserved our scorn, like poofs and homos. As long as we weren’t girls, swots, oiks, wogs or queers, we could be jolly decent chaps. All those other categories were synonymous with weakness, to be joshed without mercy by the strong. And if a boy struggled with the spontaneity of banter, he could memorise jokes about the Irish, who were unbelievably thick. We laughed at anyone not like us, and the repertoire on repeat included gags about slaves and nuns and women hurdlers. One September, after a boy came back from a holiday in Australia, we had jokes about Aborigines. We internalised this poison like a vaccine, later making us insensitive as witnesses to all but the most vicious instances of discrimination. Everyone who was not us, a boy at a private boarding school from the late 70s to the early 80s, was beneath us. Obviously, we too were a minority, but of all the minorities we were the most important. Of course we were. We’d end up running the country.

 

Single-minded ambition became acceptable as a way of deadening the self. Get elected president of the debating society. Edit the school magazine. Lobby to become head of house, head prefect. Join a milkround company, get a column on a national newspaper, write a book. For the worst afflicted, at the high end of the greasy pole, become prime minister. The drive for success was an ongoing plea for attention and affection, a condition described by Lucille Iremonger in her book Fiery Chariot as the Phaeton complex. In Greek mythology Phaeton was a frustrated child of the sun god Helios, who insists on driving his father’s chariot just for one day. He crashes the chariot, turning much of Africa into desert.

 

According to Iremonger, a hunger for power is the tragic fate of children abandoned by their parents, and she developed her theory from a study of British prime ministers between 1809 and 1940. No prizes for guessing where most of them were educated, and many former boarders can be recognised as Phaetons.

 

In his book The Old Boys, David Turner has the statistics for the “highly disproportionate share” of public school alumni in the top jobs of the UK. These figures come from 2014, to include boys at school at the same time as me in their middle-aged professional prime: “seven in 10 senior judges, six in 10 senior officers in the armed forces, and more than half the permanent secretaries, senior diplomats and leading media figures”. Seventeen out of 27 members of Johnson’s full cabinet in 2020 went to private school. Of the more visible recent political buccaneers, leading English private schools have sent out Rees-Mogg, Hunt, Mitchell, Cash, Redwood and Cummings: English boys with English minds.

 

A follow-up report by the Sutton Trust and Social Mobility Commission, Elitist Britain 2019, paints a mostly unchanged picture. Private schools account for nearly 70% of the judges and barristers in the country. To this list can be added more than 50% of bishops and ministers of state and lord lieutenants and the England cricket team, these doors not even half open to anyone else.

 

Johnson was any boy who started boarding in 1975, only more so, because not growing up was openly a part of his act

When deciding on a private school education for his children, my dad must have envisaged useful connections for life that seem psychologically plausible as well as professionally desirable: a segregated elite united by a common uncommon experience. Cameron surrounded himself with like-minded people – of the six men who worked on the Conservative Party Manifesto in 2014, five had been to Eton. The other was an old boy of St Paul’s. Sonia Purnell, Johnson’s biographer, says Johnson doesn’t have friends – his younger brother was best man at his first wedding – but he knows what kind of person makes him feel comfortable. He remains loyal to boys’ school boys like his friend Darius Guppy (who famously asked Johnson for the address of a fellow journalist so he could have him beaten up) and Cummings, rebels but public school rebels. Or loyal at least for a while. Once Johnson and Cummings fell out, each was right to be frightened of the other. Their schooling was more powerful in them than any self-projection as icon or iconoclast: they knew how to hurt their own.

 

In her biography, Purnell calls Johnson “an original – the opposite of a stereotype, the exception to the rule”. Not quite. He was any boy who started at a private boarding school in 1975, only more so because not growing up was openly a feature of his performance. He flaunted shamelessly what the rest of us tried to conceal: he was chaotic, unformed, cruel, slapdash, essentially frivolous. When he messed up he was just a boy, with his boyishly ruffled hair, and expected to be excused.

 

Cameron likewise turned his back on the mess he’d made with the serenity of a public school boy whose ancestors had been public school boys too. Between the lectern and the door of yet another temporary home Cameron hummed a happy tune, pretending to be fine. All is well, thank you and goodnight. Possibly he’d been a bit naughty, but luckily England was arranged in such a way as to protect his own best interests. Of course it was. Boys like us had arranged it.

 

In the end we can’t take anything seriously.

 

In earlier generations, Orwell and others like him were exposed by war and other calamities to a seriousness that grew their stunted selves and tempered the isolated and ironic cult of an English private education. They were goaded by events into compassion, so that sooner or later, Orwell believed, even in “a land of snobbery and privilege, ruled largely by the old and silly”, England would brush aside the obvious injustice of the public schools.

 

The wait goes on. Maybe in 40 years’ time, assuming the country survives Brexit and Covid, a more enlightened nation might look back on Cameron and Johnson as a self-erasing supernova, a final bright flare and a burning out, the dying of the public school light in a burst of corruption and incompetence so spectacular the glimmer will be visible from space.

 

Anyone betting on that outcome, at any point in the past 600 years, would have lost.

Silence and Secrets: Charles Spencer’s Very Private School / ‘I don’t think I developed emotionally’: Earl Spencer on the pain of boarding-school abuse


Interview

‘I don’t think I developed emotionally’: Earl Spencer on the pain of boarding-school abuse

Tim Adams

The brother of Diana, princess of Wales, talks about his difficult decision to write about being physically and sexually abused and the resistance he faced from members of his own class

 




Tim Adams

Sun 17 Mar 2024 14.00 CET

https://www.theguardian.com/education/2024/mar/17/earl-charles-spencer-a-very-private-school-interview

 

It was one thing writing about the abuses of his childhood, Charles Spencer tells me, with half an ironic laugh; it’s quite another talking about them with strangers. When we meet in an office at his publisher, he is reeling a bit from this new fact of his life. The more sensational chapters of his memoir of a deeply traumatic five years at the Northamptonshire prep school Maidwell Hall had been splashed all over the previous week’s Mail on Sunday. The following morning, he had been a guest on Lorraine Kelly’s mid-morning TV sofa, raking over the painful detail of that long-buried past for the viewers. As a result, he says, apologising if he seems a bit strung out, he’s had two days of thumping headaches followed by vivid nightmares.

 

The early responses to his book about being sent away from home to be brutalised at school at eight years old have been instructive. On the one hand he’s had a mailbox of emails from fellow survivors, praising his courage in speaking up for the generations of “privileged” schoolboys and girls who, like him, suffered serial beatings and sexual assault in the closed world of boarding schools well before puberty.

 

On the other he’s experienced the default prurience of the tabloid press, which picked over his book for clickbait (ever since Spencer stood up in the pulpit at Westminster Abbey and blamed redtop journalists for hounding his sister, Diana, to death, he seems to have been considered fair game). The Sun, for example, thought the most appropriate headline for a book about the lasting harm of childhood trauma to be “Di Bro’s sex at 12 with hooker”. The food writer William Sitwell, a near contemporary of Spencer’s at Maidwell and Eton, meanwhile, blithely dismissed the substance of the memoir in two columns in the Telegraph. In the first, Sitwell branded Spencer a traitor to his class: “One of their own – an earl, uncle to princes, seriously landed, stately housed, replete with a deer park, fine furniture and fabulous paintings – is dishing the dirt from within…” he wrote. In the second, he argued, bizarrely, that “Spencer has not suggested that, beyond corporal punishment, he or anyone else was a victim of abuse”.

 

While professing to have long avoided any column bearing Sitwell’s byline, Spencer shakes his head when I mention that sentiment. His book was written precisely to challenge that stubborn, unhinged belief among his peers that school regimes featuring daily beatings and endemic paedophilia “never did me any harm”. (Reading Sitwell’s piece I was reminded of an observation by Alex Renton, the journalist who has done much in recent years to shed light on the history of abuse at many of Britain’s most exclusive private schools. Soon after Renton revealed the worst of what had happened to him as a child, he ran into an old school friend at a party: “Don’t stand near Alex,” the friend warned others present, “he’ll put his hand down your trousers.”)

 

The affecting power of Spencer’s account lies in its description of the way predatory violence was entirely normalised in his school years. Maidwell Hall was presented to wealthy parents as a kind of term-time paradise for young boys; once the family had departed down the gravel drive, Spencer writes, it became a hellish place. The awful wound of homesickness was preyed upon by fearful teachers who bullied and thumped and caned vulnerable boys, or insisted on “special” naked swimming lessons; that was exacerbated by a senior matron obsessed with humiliating bedwetters, and a junior matron who molested 10-year-olds and had sex with 12-year-olds after lights out. “I realised very early on that this was a horribly ugly subject,” Spencer says. “And I made a conscious effort to make the book as smooth a read as possible. As a result every now and then the reader might tread on a landmine and think: what the hell was that?”

 

The idea that such a thoroughly sweet boy has had to live with that for the last 50 years is appalling to me

 

Ritual beatings were a timetabled part of the day. Every evening after tea, a senior boy would read out the names of small boys who had committed some minor transgression of opaque rules. They would be sent to line up outside the headmasters’ office, inside which he would require boys to drop their trousers and then choose the implement with which to inflict punishment, slipper or cane or switch. Some of the contemporaries who have shared their stories with Spencer still have the physical scars on their backsides to this day, 50 years on.

 

In the book, he says he first started to properly reflect on the psychological damage of those years in his 40s, after his second marriage had broken down, and he was questioning, in therapy, the roots of his destructive behaviour. In talking about his parents’ broken marriage and his abandonment issues, he mentioned in passing his time at Maidwell Hall. The therapist asked Spencer to expand and he found he couldn’t stop. He’s now approaching 60 and has just become a grandfather for the first time. I had a sense, reading the book, I say, that the impetus for telling this story was that it was now or never.

 

“I suppose it was,” he says. “I started considering writing it when I was 54. I’d been accumulating memories from the school as my own therapy, but then I started to hear from other people who had gone through much worse than me [fellow pupils he met by chance, or contacted specifically] and that activated a form of survivor’s guilt. I had been quite mainstream in the school, academically OK and decent at sports. But it was a ruthless place, very Lord of the Flies. And these people who were truly brutalised were the quiet blokes who weren’t in the sports team and were sitting at the back of the class. It sounds ridiculous – I was a very small child – but I felt guilty that I hadn’t defended them more.”

 

The identities of his fellow pupils are protected in the book (the historian in him has given each of them the name of one of King Charles I’s regicides). He names the teachers he knows to have died, including Jack Porch, the headteacher who “retired early” at 51 for unspecified reasons.

 

“He was a fascinating case of a very intelligent paedophile sadist,” he says, “because he’d constructed a system that fed him little boys’ buttocks every night. He had this ability to present to parents a sort of charm and humour. But he was deeply deviant. A chilling presence. I received the audiobook [of A Very Private School] today and I listened to the first bit again. The preface is about this incredibly sweet kid being systematically made to feel like nothing every day. I started crying, actually. The idea that such a thoroughly sweet boy has had to live with that for the last 50 years is appalling to me.”

 

In among the pictures in the book, there is one of the moment his life shifted, as he waits to be driven to Maidwell for the first time. He stands in the stiffest possible jacket, a mini-me of his father, the eighth earl, behind a large trunk with his name written on it. His big sister Diana sits on the trunk smiling – she is not to return to boarding school until tomorrow. Their nanny stands by looking anxious. Before he went away Charles acquired the nickname Buzz, from his estranged mother, because he had “all the happy effervescence of a bee”. His book is dedicated “to Buzz”, the boy he believed to have died at the moment he was handed over to the care of Porch.

 

One question the book raises is: what can the parents who sent their seven- and eight-year-old sons to these institutions have been thinking? One answer is that they bought into in that curiously British notion that young boys, particularly the children of privilege, must get used to pain and suffering, must break their attachment to their mothers and homes in order to mature – to embark on their destiny as leaders of men. Another is that the parents wanted them out of the way to pursue their social lives (the priorities of some are described here as “horses, dogs, children”, in that order). Spencer’s book dwells on the choices of his own parents, without condemning them. Why is that?

 

“Well,” he says, again with that half-smile, “among the plethora of psychotherapies that I’ve undergone, one of them has been understanding your parents and letting go of any blame. So that probably comes across. My mother had a very tricky mother herself. No doubt these things can get passed down generationally. And she was so young. She went straight from being head girl of a private school to marrying this very eligible chap, and a mother at 19. And she couldn’t navigate the demands of that.”

 

Frances Spencer’s response was to divorce her husband to marry Peter Shand-Kydd and – having lost custody of her four children – including two-year-old Charles, to divide her time between the Scottish island of Seil and a sheep station in New South Wales. He recalls visits to Scotland to stay with her in the holidays, where he’d help out in the newsagents she owned in Oban. “She wasn’t at all a mollycoddling mother, but she was fun at parties,” he says. “Her life ended with intense Catholicism; she spent her time helping children visit Lourdes every year. And at the same time, I think, there was massive guilt, which manifested itself through alcoholism. She died young, at 68, and the last decade of her life was one of sadness. So, no, I’m not angry with her.”

 

People who went to these schools at that time simply had to become desensitised in order to survive

 

There is a sad moment in the book when the young Spencer escapes from some of the attentions of his schoolmasters to be alone in a favourite place in a wooded part of the school grounds; he sees his father drive past in his Rolls-Royce, returning from some lunch or other. The ludicrously large family seat at Althorp was only a few miles from Maidwell, but he felt like it could have been on another planet. Once he seriously considered shooting himself in the foot at the end of a holiday, to avoid returning to school. Could he not have told his father how desperately unhappy he was?

 

“It never occurred to me,” he says. “And I have to say, it never occurred to any of the people I spoke to.” He supposes they didn’t want to disappoint their fathers. “At the end of the term, I’d come home with a report, and he read it with me. And that was our 15 minutes talking about school. He was very much a product of his class.”

 

With his own seven children, Spencer has tried to be far more present in their education. They all went to day schools, though his two sons boarded at their own choice in their late teens. He does the school run when he can with his youngest daughter, Charlotte, who is 11, chatting with her in the car, “trying to keep tabs on what’s happening,” the stuff he feels he missed out on.

 

For all these efforts at normality, there are, inevitably, several moments in the book when you recognise him still to be imprisoned by his class, as much as his memories of school. He is at pains throughout to say he is well aware of his privilege, and that children in other circumstances clearly suffered far worse than anything he experienced or can imagine. Still, for example, he includes without much of a caveat the comment by one of his teachers to the idea that he would be better off in a “normal” school: “You are too precious a flower” for that (the implication being that you may live in daily terror of being assaulted by various members of staff here, but that clearly pales beside the horrors of being educated by the state).

 

The ground rules of our interview are that Spencer will not answer any questions about the royal family – knowing of old that any quote he gives will be immediately stripped of the context and beamed around the world. I don’t therefore get to find out, for example, whether he sees this book as a companion volume to his nephew Prince Harry’s Spare – a cry for help from within the walls of inherited privilege, a demand that things are done differently. In his book’s preface he includes this: “It’s a fact that many of the leading figures in British public life today – from prime ministers to royalty – have received just such a private, boarding school education. While some thrived under benevolent headteachers, others have been wounded by wretched treatment during formative years. Some of that poisonous legacy they have unwittingly passed on to society.”

 

He was a contemporary, among others, of Boris Johnson, whose schooling followed a similar path. Does he see these traits, for example, in him? “I can’t actually drill down on specific individuals,” he says. “But I think it has to be a logical fact that people who went to these schools at that time, of which Maidwell was one, simply had to become desensitised in order to survive.”

 

He casts his comments in the book mostly in the past tense – things have undoubtedly improved since the 1970s, but of course 70,000 families still make the choice to send their kids away at a young age.

 

“I do know a few people who have been through this more recently,” he says. “One who is only now 25 or so. He’s a wreck and he told me his life was destroyed by having to go to one of these schools at seven. He writes to his father saying just please apologise, but the father cannot apologise because that choice was part of his entire code. A lot of families ‘with an old name’ might be on their financial uppers these days, but still for them to say, my son goes to a very smart school, gives them social validation; they are prepared to put up with whatever their child is putting up with, to be able to drop that at a dinner party.”

 

I wonder, when he was writing his book, whether any part of him felt like a “class traitor”, as some have suggested?

 

“One thing,” he says, “is that school was very, very clever at inculcating thoughts. One was that telling tales was a capital offence. And there were times when my schoolboy conscience felt that strongly when I was writing. Of course, logically, that’s ridiculous. But it goes deep. Quite a lot of people, most of whom didn’t go to Maidwell, have sidled up and said: ‘You should drop this book, because you’re feeding the enemy, giving ammunition to people who are against what we do.’”

 

He welcomes the fact that the current Maidwell Hall – where boarding fees can exceed £30,000 a year – has in light of his book opened an investigation of its past and invited former pupils to come forward. It is not alone. Renton has compiled a database of abuse allegations against 490 independent schools and more than 300 named teachers.

 

I wonder if Spencer had qualms about naming the teachers who had died. Did he expect to hear from their families?

 

“I thought long and hard about that,” he says. “And in the end I thought, actually, they deserve to be named. Nobody’s going to pin the crimes of the father on the children or the grandchildren. The point is, very sadly, their fathers did terrible things.”

 

One of the teachers who singled him out at nine years old for particular violence – a man he used to fantasise about meeting up with later in life in order to return a beating – is still alive. He calls him Goffie in the book (another of Charles I’s regicides). He has sent him a copy: “He’s very old now. But I just want him to know.”

 

At one point he thought of bringing a legal case against the assistant matron who molested him and other boys in her care. Why did he decide not to do that?

 

“I thought about it when all the cases against Catholic priests happened in America,” he says. “But I think what she did was so troubling to me that it’s sort of beyond me to cope with it.” Those disturbing assaults on his innocence, interactions he found impossible to process or understand, led to him using saved pocket money to visit a prostitute while on holiday in Italy with his family when he was 12. He believes those experiences damaged for ever his subsequent capacity to form mature relationships.

 

“I got a private detective involved at one point, to find her,” he says. “She’s been quite careful to stay off the internet, married a couple of times, had a kid. There is nothing that the law could do that would make it OK for me. Having said that, if others now come forward, I would certainly validate what they say.”

 

He has been married to his third wife, Canadian-born Karen Villeneuve, the chief executive of a charity that protects vulnerable children, for 13 years. Does he now look back and see the damage of his childhood as a factor in his catalogue of earlier failed marriages and relationships?

 

“Put it this way,” he says, “I don’t think I developed emotionally in those early years as would have been the case in a loving home with actively loving adults.” Many of those contemporaries, who like him “have demons sewn into the seams of our souls” as a result of their experiences at schools like Maidwell, bear out that belief, he says. “There is a lot of addiction and depression. The wife of a great friend of mine at Eton – who surprisingly emigrated to Australia – got in touch with me when news of the book came out to say: ‘I just want you to know, he went to a place like Maidwell and had the most appalling time. He’s had terrible depression over the years but I’ve never seen him so happy as when he heard you were bringing a book out about all this stuff.’ Someone else I know,” he says, “was a guy who was terribly bullied, three years older than me. And he wrote to me a while ago and said: ‘You writing this book has let me tell my wife for the first time what I went through at Maidwell. We’ve been married for 30 years – and we just spent the last hour crying together.’”

 

For himself he suggests that the catharsis has probably been delayed. He has found the experience of revisiting all this history for publication “quite nightmarish”, but is proud that it is done.

 

“Like many of my contemporaries, I used to drink way too much,” he says. “Not on a dangerous level, but certainly to anaesthetise things. I haven’t had a drink since January.”

 

I mention to him something that Billy Connolly once told me in an interview about coming to terms with the memory of sexual abuse he suffered at the hands of his father: “It’s not called emotional baggage for nothing – it means you can put it down if you want to.”

 

“I totally agree with that,” he says. “I do feel I might put it down now.” You sense he believes he owes it to long-lost Buzz, to at least do that for him.

 

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